When a couple is going through difficult times in their relationship, they are not seeing each other clearly. Very often, the person we fell in love with becomes the person who brings up our own unprocessed and unconscious childhood wounds. Our conditioned thoughts, feelings and responses (neuronets) or early trauma encoded as cellular memory stand in the way of a mutually fulfilling relationship.

In couples' therapy, we explore what our partner is bringing forward for us and start to take responsibility for our own feelings, moods and behaviours. We start to realize that we have been projecting the ghosts of the past onto our partner and might be missing out on the great person that is before us. We might also come to a clear realization that the relationship needs to come to a close.

The gift of couples' therapy is that whichever way the relationship goes, both people become more conscious of what they carry inside. What we become aware of and heal does not need to be repeated. Even if the relationship ends both partners stand a much greater chance of creating a healthy relationship next time.

The greatest gift of couples' therapy is the opportunity to heal deep, unconscious material. Our partner becomes the magnet that pulls these issues up to be looked at.

Ultimately, it is our healed and healthy relationship with our own innermost Self that creates the possibility for a wonderful and fulfilling partnership with others.
It is a great truth that we cannot truly love another unless we love ourselves. Couples' therapy will teach you to have more compassion for yourself, your partner and all beings.

All that is required in couples' therapy is a willingness on the part of both partners to commit to the growth and learning that is possible.